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Family Interview Guide

Finding the right childcare for your family is an investment of your time and we want to help you navigate the interview process effectively. It’s recommended to have multiple video interviews before moving forward with a booking. The more information you have, the easier your decision will be.

In the first call, recognize that they might be slightly nervous. That doesn’t mean they aren’t a great candidate! One suggestion is to take the lead by sharing information about your family first. It may be a helpful ice breaker before finding out more about them. Having their profile open and in front of you will help guide you and get specific about what they have to offer.

We’ve included some samples of how the process could go.


First Interview Information 

  • Describe your family (number of family members in the home, number of and age(s) of children, any special needs, traditions, hobbies, pets, etc)
  • Describe your home and your town, its proximity to NYC and what you love about it.
  • Your reason for wanting live-in childcare and if you’ve had live-in childcare before
  • Your ideal candidate. What qualities are you looking for in a caregiver
  • A typical daily routine and schedule
  • Parenting style, discipline, methods, etc. explained.
  • Types of childcare duties they would be responsible for and household duties (related to the children) you would like to have handled.
  • Ideal arrival date to your home

First Interview Questions


  • Tell me more about yourself. Where were you born? How many brothers and sisters do you have?
  • What did you study at school? Did you like it?
  • Why are you interested in being a live-in and are you okay with moving somewhere new?
  • Why does that interest you?
  • Tell me about your childcare experience.
  • What was the best part about working with those children?
  • What did you find most challenging working with those children?
  • What were the children in the family like? Ages?
  • Were you fully or partially responsible?
  • What types of activities did you do with the children?
  • Are you comfortable working with…(toddlers, multiple children, special needs, etc?)
  • Are you an experienced babysitter or more comfortable in a mother’s helper role?
  • How comfortable are you driving? In new areas?
  • Tell me about a typical day for you. What do you like to do in your time off?
  • Is your family supportive of you in doing this?
  • Are you available to on/around my ideal arrival date?

 Questions By Age

Infant – Toddler

(3 months-2 years)


What is your experience changing diapers, feeding, bathing and naptime routines?

Are you comfortable preparing a bottle and/or baby food?

How would you handle a baby who cries a lot?

What activities would think to do with an infant? 

Do you have knowledge about safety, CPR or any other related areas?


(1 year – 3 years)


What activities or games might you play with a toddler?

Tell me about a time when you were able to help a child end one task and begin another or help teach them to share?

How do you deal with a toddler tantrum?

Questions for older children

(4 years+)


Would you be willing and able to help with homework?

Are you ready to be active / athletic with them?

How would you react if the children asked your permission to do something that you know they are not allowed to do (example: watch television before designated time, have a friend over, eat a snack that they are not normally allowed to have)?

Concluding The First Interview

If you are still interested in the candidate after the first interview, we encourage scheduling another time to speak and go more in-depth to gauge the candidate as a fit for your family. If you decide you are no longer interested in the candidate you are reviewing, please let them know within a few days that you are still looking and appreciate their time.

Second Interview Questions


  • Talk about what a typical day is like in your home. Share if it will change when they would arrive. Talk about your children in more detail, describe what they like to do, foods they like to eat, activities they’re involved in, etc.
  • What do you think will be the easiest part about joining our family? What might be the hardest part?
  • Share some of your non-negotiable household rules. Ask if they have any questions about them. What would you do if one of my children broke one of our household rules?
  • How would you handle the situation?
  • How would you describe your work experiences so far?
  • Tell me about the amount of responsibility you have had in the past as far as basic cooking, tidying up and doing laundry? How do you like to keep your room?
  • How long have you lived away from home? How do you adjust to living in a new place?
  • What is the most valuable thing you’ve learned in school? What do you hope to gain out of your experience as a live-in?
  • What are your expectations of your host family? Why do you think a host family would want to choose you?
  • Talk with her about their family background. How would your family describe you? How would your friends describe you?
  • What types of people do you like to spend time with? Are you more of an introvert or extrovert? A homebody or likes to be out?
  • What was the last movie you saw? Do you like to read? What’s your favorite book/movie?
  • What were your favorite toys to play with as a child?
  • Try to get a sense of their communication style. When something bothers you how do you try to resolve it? What is the best way to communicate information to you—verbally or email/text?
  • How do you deal with stressful situations and what do you do to unwind?